Initial Meeting

Series: Premarriage and Weddings
Presenter: Bob Deffinbaugh

This series of message provide teaching and insights into how an elder can approach pre-marital counseling and performing weddings. Part 2 of 3.

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Remember It

Contemplate these questions, then click on each question to see the answer.
1. What are the goals for the first session of the pre-marriage preparation program?
Provide an opportunity for the trainers and the hopeful couple to establish a friendship; discover the couple’s eligibility for marriage; determine the couple’s maturity and potential trouble spots.
2. What question does the speaker suggest instead of asking the couple if they are Christians?
“Give us your intended’s testimony” – have each one share the testimony of the other.
3. What is the importance of asking each partner if there is a problem that needs to be addressed in the other’s life?
If they can identify a problem that needs to be addressed, it usually proves that they aren’t viewing each other through rose-colored glasses but rather through biblical or realistic lenses.

Discuss It

  1. Why do you think it is important to make it clear in the first session that you are not committing to perform the couple’s marriage or to have their marriage performed in your church?
  2. Consider what the speaker says about performing a wedding if a pregnancy is involved. What are your thoughts on this? Do you agree or disagree with the speaker? Why?
  3. Are there any questions that the speaker did not discuss that you think should be asked during the pre-marriage preparation program?

Apply It

  1. Ask two or three married couples to look back on their pre-marital counseling. What questions do they wish they had been asked before they got married? What were some great questions that they were asked?
  2. Find two or three couples who got married when one was a believer and the other was not. Ask them what struggles or complications they experienced in their marriage. Make a list of what they say.

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